On Choosing Well :)

Before someone buys a computer, hand phone or any gadget, he will read up the reviews on it, find out where he can get the best buys and will only buy it if he knows that it would be the best for him and that it would last long.

How much more should one be cautious when selecting a husband or wife. Selecting a partner is easy but selecting the right partner is not easy.

Why do I say selecting a partner is easy? The world as we know it now is in everyone's hands. By that statement, I mean that everything in the world is accessible to everyone through the Internet. So it is easy to meet someone on Facebook and/or the like, and fall in love and get married. This is not uncommon these days.

Getting married is easy but staying married is becoming increasingly tough and challenging these days.

Here are some useful time tested, tips for a long, blissful healthy married life:-

1. Pray asking God to help you in your decision making. He will never refuse you.
2. Same religion is of utmost importance. This will keep the family together.
3. Spend time learning about his/her likes, dislikes, attitudes, lifestyle, character both in public and in private, habits, hobbies, spending habits, saving habits, friends he/she has and is close with, occupation, treatment of parents & siblings, treatment of the elderly, treatment of friends, attitude towards authority, religious beliefs and practises and his/her temperaments. You will need at least 2 years to learn about the person you like. Don't get a rude shock after the union. There are no quick fixes after marriage.
4. Do not get intimate during the getting to know him/her period. If you do, you will either end up marrying him/her because you have no choice OR carry the feelings for that person, the hurts and memories incurred, into your next relationship which will most probably end in a disaster.
4. Seek the advice of couples who are in a contended, healthy, lifelong relationship. They will have golden nuggets to offer you.
5. Never ever take the advice of those who tell you, to try out by living together first. This kind of relationship will mar your future. There are many ways to learn about the person you like other than living together.
6. Do not fall for someone because of one or two aspects you admire in him or her. This is going to be forever, till either one dies. So careful selection is vital here.

Many who have selected their partners thinking that they are the right ones, have been sorely disappointed because of haphazard decision making founded on fleeting passion.

Therefore 'Choose Well' for a life long, healthy and blissful relationship.


Blessings
Mary Augustine